I am not defending Chad in any way. He stunk today, but lets not forget the Romeo is no stranger to Chad and has been able to stifle him for all the years he was with the Pats. He is in Chads head and knows how to gameplan against him.
I agree with all of what you wrote. Personally, I think they should get rid of instant replay and get full time refs. Replayable calls come down to whether they are judgement calls or what I call factual calls. Just like PI, this call is a judgement call - ask 10 refs and get 5 say yes, 5 say no. Not sure how you can review those type plays.
I think the call was a bad one on the field. Jets played lousy, no doubt, but calls on critical plays like that are being blown week in and week out.
PS - the other thing that will suck is that the Jets will probably get a nice appology letter from the NFL saying the wrong call was made ....