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[The Crusher]

They cause women to have unrealistic expectations of men?

I thought that was their DNA.

[SenorGato]

They cause women to have unrealistic expectations of men?

The gay guys I have run into are just as dumb as we are. Their one advantage with women is that women are totally convinced they won't try to BANG her.

[tEYbow]

I'm not gay myself, but a few friends of mine that I played D1 collegiate level sports with said it best: the biggest myth about gay individuals is that they simply want every single guy out there and are unable to control their urges. If your teammates don't come on to you, say anything to you or touch your person, how is it any different than another straight guy being in the shower with you?

Anyone who's worried about another dude checking them out probably has some issues regarding their own sexuality. If a guy is confident in his heterosexuality, it shouldn't be an issue. If he's secretly concerned he might like having another dude checking him out, then it's in his best interest to make sure there aren't any dudes checking him out.

Feel free to skip over this as "psychobabble", but the reality of the situation probably lies closer to unconscious phantasy that he (being the gay individual), actually will not be checking us out and not find us attractive and the ego injury thusly sustained. Easily defensively dismissed as "I don't care if a gay guy finds me attractive". But the truth is, we all seek validation and praise, regardless of the source. The 'gay guys are rapists' fantasy is consciously propagated to avoid having a gay man see you naked due to fear that you won't gain this validation and instead feel rejection (evidence is that none of us would mind a woman seeing us naked, even without the possibility of sexual contact). So, ultimately, then, we are avoiding the ego injury of not being liked, and worse, the questioning of our sexuality that comes with liking being liked by someone of the same gender, despite the fact that it is not actually resultant of sexual desire, but rather of our own narcissism and enjoyment of praise. So, yeah, psychobabble and stuff.

[tEYbow]

Well that myth is drivel. If you were to place a random girl in the locker room, she for sure wouldn't have the urge to want every single guy that's in the locker room as there's a such things as unatractive people. I'm pretty sure gay man have taste as well so that shouldn't be implied to them. That's why I mentioned "who's interested in male parts in general". You can even place yourself in this example as I pretty sure if you were taken a shower with 54 other womens that you wouldn't be interested in all that you see.

Lol... I hadn't read this yet, but I suppose it kind of proves my point exactly. Defensive posturing and all.

[slats]

Feel free to skip over this as "psychobabble", but the reality of the situation probably lies closer to unconscious phantasy that he (being the gay individual), actually will not be checking us out and not find us attractive and the ego injury thusly sustained. Easily defensively dismissed as "I don't care if a gay guy finds me attractive". B

This is much better. Thank you.

You don't want a gay guy showering with you're because you're afraid that he, like most women, won't find you attractive.

Awesome.

[T0mShane]

The only reason I know I'm attractive is that gay men have told me so. It's an awesome compliment.

[Villain The Foe]

You're comparing bananas to peaches here my man.

im comparing sexuality actually

[SenorGato]

A gay said I was even more effeminate than he was once. I was like whaaaaaat.

[flgreen]

Feel free to skip over this as "psychobabble",

Thank you for the warning

[T0mShane]

A gay said I was even more effeminate than he was once. I was like whaaaaaat.

I can see that being the case. Totes.

[BroadwayJoe12]

im comparing sexuality actually

Whatever happened to the real Villain_the_foe, because this dude is cut-rate.

Edited by BroadwayJoe12, 02 February 2013 - 05:19 PM.

[New York Mick]

The redskin thread was better

[JFtoLong]

Jif, sorry your type were offended by this guy.

[Villain The Foe]

Whatever happened to the real Villain_the_foe, because this dude is cut-rate.

I guess he left because people complained about him all the time, now they miss him. Funny how that happens lol.

[tEYbow]

Thank you for the warning

No problem. As a rule I assume the reader has an IQ of about 85, and then occasionally I end up pleasantly surprised.

[The Crusher]

Feel free to skip over this as "psychobabble", but the reality of the situation probably lies closer to unconscious phantasy that he (being the gay individual), actually will not be checking us out and not find us attractive and the ego injury thusly sustained. Easily defensively dismissed as "I don't care if a gay guy finds me attractive". But the truth is, we all seek validation and praise, regardless of the source. The 'gay guys are rapists' fantasy is consciously propagated to avoid having a gay man see you naked due to fear that you won't gain this validation and instead feel rejection (evidence is that none of us would mind a woman seeing us naked, even without the possibility of sexual contact). So, ultimately, then, we are avoiding the ego injury of not being liked, and worse, the questioning of our sexuality that comes with liking being liked by someone of the same gender, despite the fact that it is not actually resultant of sexual desire, but rather of our own narcissism and enjoyment of praise. So, yeah, psychobabble and stuff.

Psycho Babble? I actually learnt hat from a Cheap Trick Song.

[LAD_Brooklyn]

Lol... I hadn't read this yet, but I suppose it kind of proves my point exactly. Defensive posturing and all.

Huh? You haven't read it but you assume it prove your point? I'm pretty sure you read and seen it hadn't so you just replied with this. Why? Who knows but like I said your point very much isn't the case.

[tEYbow]

Huh? You haven't read it but you assume it prove your point? I'm pretty sure you read and seen it hadn't so you just replied with this. Why? Who knows but like I said your point very much isn't the case.

Um, I hadn't read your post when I made my prior one. But yours was the perfect punctuation to it. And this one might even give a little bit of a nod to my more recent addition to the thread.

Edited by tEYbow, 03 February 2013 - 11:24 AM.

[dbatesman]

I can see that being the case. Totes.

or sumpin.

[Jet27]

That doesn't work as a joke or as an accusation, as I'm not the slightest bit homophobic, hence the negative rep. Lol.

I find your defensive posture interesting, though.