The Crusher Posted July 20, 2017 Share Posted July 20, 2017 Beimg a young Dad is tuffest thing any dude can do. Brutal lack of me time, brutal lack of sleep and the realization your penis is no longer the wife's number one priority. I'm on the opposite end. One daughter getting married next year, one daughter becoming a college freshman, one son a college sophomore, one son a college junior and youngest daughter a high school sophomore . Interesting thing is as tough as it is it really go's by so fast. People always told me that and I never believed them. It really does. Do what ever you can to not miss a minute of it. Once they get older you slowly get your me time back and realize " fuck me time", because believe it or not you miss the days of them dominating your life. You always know who you are, what you do and what you do it for... You are Daddy, you do everything and you do it for them. No matter how hard it gets enjoy it and never take it for granted, because it's fleeting. Then you go from Daddy to Dad. Daddy changes diapers - Dad makes sure the air in their car tires are full, the inspections are current and oil changes are current. Daddy gives long warm hugs that cure everything - Dads give quick chest bump hugs and hope it helps. Daddy knows all the answer and knows what's best - Dad be guessing like a motherfucker and learns as he go's. Daddy teaches them to play sports and practices daily with them - Dad realizes they are getting better than him and Blames that on his two post surgical knees. Daddy puts away and saves for their future and education - Dad makes sure they appreciate it and contribute to themselves as well. No matter be it Daddy or Dad you worry about them, you love them and realize the longer you are a parent the less you know about parenting. The answers and advice become fluid and most of the time it's better to be patient than right. Trust Crushlove on that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lizard King Posted July 20, 2017 Share Posted July 20, 2017 3 minutes ago, The Crusher said: Beimg a young Dad is tuffest thing any dude can do. Brutal lack of me time, brutal lack of sleep and the realization your penis is no longer the wife's number one priority. I'm on the opposite end. One daughter getting married next year, one daughter becoming a college freshman, one son a college sophomore, one son a college junior and youngest daughter a high school sophomore . Interesting thing is as tough as it is it really go's by so fast. People always told me that and I never believed them. It really does. Do what ever you can to not miss a minute of it. Once they get older you slowly get your me time back and realize " **** me time", because believe it or not you miss the days of them dominating your life. You always know who you are, what you do and what you do it for... You are Daddy, you do everything and you do it for them. No matter how hard it gets enjoy it and never take it for granted, because it's fleeting. Then you go from Daddy to Dad. Daddy changes diapers - Dad makes sure the air in their car tires are full, the inspections are current and oil changes are current. Daddy gives long warm hugs that cure everything - Dads give quick chest bump hugs and hope it helps. Daddy knows all the answer and knows what's best - Dad be guessing like a mother****er and learns as he go's. Daddy teaches them to play sports and practices daily with them - Dad realizes they are getting better than him and Blames that on his two post surgical knees. Daddy puts away and saves for their future and education - Dad makes sure they appreciate it and contribute to themselves as well. No matter be it Daddy or Dad you worry about them, you love them and realize the longer you are a parent the less you know about parenting. The answers and advice become fluid and most of the time it's better to be patient than right. Trust Crushlove on that. Top 3 post I've ever read on the subject. This is great. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Integrity28 Posted July 20, 2017 Share Posted July 20, 2017 8 minutes ago, The Crusher said: Beimg a young Dad is tuffest thing any dude can do. Brutal lack of me time, brutal lack of sleep and the realization your penis is no longer the wife's number one priority. I'm on the opposite end. One daughter getting married next year, one daughter becoming a college freshman, one son a college sophomore, one son a college junior and youngest daughter a high school sophomore . Interesting thing is as tough as it is it really go's by so fast. People always told me that and I never believed them. It really does. Do what ever you can to not miss a minute of it. Once they get older you slowly get your me time back and realize " **** me time", because believe it or not you miss the days of them dominating your life. You always know who you are, what you do and what you do it for... You are Daddy, you do everything and you do it for them. No matter how hard it gets enjoy it and never take it for granted, because it's fleeting. Then you go from Daddy to Dad. Daddy changes diapers - Dad makes sure the air in their car tires are full, the inspections are current and oil changes are current. Daddy gives long warm hugs that cure everything - Dads give quick chest bump hugs and hope it helps. Daddy knows all the answer and knows what's best - Dad be guessing like a mother****er and learns as he go's. Daddy teaches them to play sports and practices daily with them - Dad realizes they are getting better than him and Blames that on his two post surgical knees. Daddy puts away and saves for their future and education - Dad makes sure they appreciate it and contribute to themselves as well. No matter be it Daddy or Dad you worry about them, you love them and realize the longer you are a parent the less you know about parenting. The answers and advice become fluid and most of the time it's better to be patient than right. Trust Crushlove on that. Man are we wired similarly. Cracks me up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JustInFudge Posted July 20, 2017 Share Posted July 20, 2017 2 hours ago, Integrity28 said: This. The day for me looks like this: 600am - kid wakes up 700am - alarm goes off 800am - get everyone out of the house and drop kid off at daycare 1.5 hours in traffic 7 hours at work 1.5 hours in traffic 600pm - dinner 700pm - quality time with kid/wife 800pm - kid to bed, workout in home gym 900pm - try to make up for work i didn't get done in office 1000pm - bed I spend all day trying to stay awake, without using caffeine - then when the time comes where I can actually sleep - my body doesn't want to down-shift. Especially with night time workouts. So, I've had to try some stuff to improve sleep quality. It is what it is. Not fishing for sympathy - many of us have lives like this, and many of us fall into a pattern of sleep deprivation over time. 3 hours in traffic each day? Blow my brains out now. **** that. That's literally spending a few days worth of time each year in traffic. Dont get how people do that everyday. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lizard King Posted July 20, 2017 Share Posted July 20, 2017 4 minutes ago, JiF said: 3 hours in traffic each day? Blow my brains out now. **** that. That's literally spending a few days worth of time each year in traffic. Dont get how people do that everyday. Real estate up here is expensive and moving closer to work isn't always an option. Pain in the tail trying to move too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Integrity28 Posted July 20, 2017 Share Posted July 20, 2017 12 minutes ago, JiF said: 3 hours in traffic each day? Blow my brains out now. **** that. That's literally spending a few days worth of time each year in traffic. Dont get how people do that everyday. You've known me since the JI days, when I lived in Indiana. I made $26,000 / year out there and I busted my ass doing 4-jobs-in-1 (art director, web developer, biz dev, and network admin). Sat in traffic to drive 6 miles in 35 miles there. I make 6-figures now, am able to focus on 1 area of expertise. The trade-off is it takes 1 hour to go 15 miles. (The extra half hour is daycare drop-off/pick-up.) Given my chosen profession, I have to be in a metropolitan area if I want to do well. This is the trade-off. I'm 100% with you though... it's soul crushing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lizard King Posted July 20, 2017 Share Posted July 20, 2017 9 minutes ago, Integrity28 said: You've known me since the JI days, when I lived in Indiana. I made $26,000 / year out there and I busted my ass doing 4-jobs-in-1 (art director, web developer, biz dev, and network admin). Sat in traffic to drive 6 miles in 35 miles there. I make 6-figures now, am able to focus on 1 area of expertise. The trade-off is it takes 1 hour to go 15 miles. (The extra half hour is daycare drop-off/pick-up.) Given my chosen profession, I have to be in a metropolitan area if I want to do well. This is the trade-off. I'm 100% with you though... it's soul crushing. That kind of congestion would have me reconsidering my life. I don't know how you do it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lizard King Posted July 20, 2017 Share Posted July 20, 2017 Wish we were playing right now. Could use it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Integrity28 Posted July 20, 2017 Share Posted July 20, 2017 1 hour ago, Lizard King said: That kind of congestion would have me reconsidering my life. I don't know how you do it. I don't give myself too much time to think about it. My wife commutes with me, so at least we use that time to talk to each other. I used to take the train, but she's been pregnant the better part of the past 2.5 years - 3 miscarriages and this pregnancy - so I drive her in when that's the case. I think I'll eventually get back to taking the train. It involves a nice long walk as part of that commute, which is great for checking out city girls and getting some exercise. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Integrity28 Posted July 20, 2017 Share Posted July 20, 2017 1 hour ago, Lizard King said: Wish we were playing right now. Could use it. You're either dumb or scum. Vote Lezbefriends Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JustInFudge Posted July 20, 2017 Share Posted July 20, 2017 1 hour ago, Lizard King said: Real estate up here is expensive and moving closer to work isn't always an option. Pain in the tail trying to move too. 1 hour ago, Integrity28 said: You've known me since the JI days, when I lived in Indiana. I made $26,000 / year out there and I busted my ass doing 4-jobs-in-1 (art director, web developer, biz dev, and network admin). Sat in traffic to drive 6 miles in 35 miles there. I make 6-figures now, am able to focus on 1 area of expertise. The trade-off is it takes 1 hour to go 15 miles. (The extra half hour is daycare drop-off/pick-up.) Given my chosen profession, I have to be in a metropolitan area if I want to do well. This is the trade-off. I'm 100% with you though... it's soul crushing. I get it. It's the same reason we lived on Long Island and my pops commuted into the city every single day. That commute, was miserable. Car to the LRI, LRI to the Subway, Subway to the World Trade Center. Gross. When I lived in Seattle it was this way too. To live on the other side of Lake Washington in or around Seattle was expensive. You got so much more bang for you buck on the opposite side of the Lake but then you had to cross the bridge which became a parking lot during rush hour. I lasted a year (for some other reasons too) but I'll never live like that again. I'm in sales, I can sell anywhere. I dont need to be tied to a major market, per say. Sure, if I lived in one of those major markets I could make even more but life style > career for me. All day, every day. I make enough anyway but it would still be this way if I wasnt making the money I do. 1 hour to go 15 miles? I would legit pull a Michael Douglas in Falling Down. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lizard King Posted July 20, 2017 Share Posted July 20, 2017 9 minutes ago, Integrity28 said: I don't give myself too much time to think about it. My wife commutes with me, so at least we use that time to talk to each other. I used to take the train, but she's been pregnant the better part of the past 2.5 years - 3 miscarriages and this pregnancy - so I drive her in when that's the case. I think I'll eventually get back to taking the train. It involves a nice long walk as part of that commute, which is great for checking out city girls and getting some exercise. I don't miss the train for the reasons JiF outlined below, but I do think it's nice that you and your wife can drive in together. That's more time together than you'd normally get based on your day. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ZachEY Posted July 20, 2017 Share Posted July 20, 2017 2 hours ago, The Crusher said: Beimg a young Dad is tuffest thing any dude can do. Brutal lack of me time, brutal lack of sleep and the realization your penis is no longer the wife's number one priority. I'm on the opposite end. One daughter getting married next year, one daughter becoming a college freshman, one son a college sophomore, one son a college junior and youngest daughter a high school sophomore . Interesting thing is as tough as it is it really go's by so fast. People always told me that and I never believed them. It really does. Do what ever you can to not miss a minute of it. Once they get older you slowly get your me time back and realize " **** me time", because believe it or not you miss the days of them dominating your life. You always know who you are, what you do and what you do it for... You are Daddy, you do everything and you do it for them. No matter how hard it gets enjoy it and never take it for granted, because it's fleeting. Then you go from Daddy to Dad. Daddy changes diapers - Dad makes sure the air in their car tires are full, the inspections are current and oil changes are current. Daddy gives long warm hugs that cure everything - Dads give quick chest bump hugs and hope it helps. Daddy knows all the answer and knows what's best - Dad be guessing like a mother****er and learns as he go's. Daddy teaches them to play sports and practices daily with them - Dad realizes they are getting better than him and Blames that on his two post surgical knees. Daddy puts away and saves for their future and education - Dad makes sure they appreciate it and contribute to themselves as well. No matter be it Daddy or Dad you worry about them, you love them and realize the longer you are a parent the less you know about parenting. The answers and advice become fluid and most of the time it's better to be patient than right. Trust Crushlove on that. Thanks for linking me to this post... I'm not crying, you're crying. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ZachEY Posted July 20, 2017 Share Posted July 20, 2017 My commute is about 50 minutes each way including a walk. I don't mind it as I read my Kindle and it's really some of the only quiet/personal time I get these days. As I transition from my day job to self-employment, I'll get more time back, but I will miss my commute for that reason. One day a week I go to the gym directly after work as well as one morning per weekend. Parenting is terrifying. My daughter recently discovered picking her nose, and yesterday morning we came in the room to see her, we found her in a pretty large pool of blood. She was happy as could be, but imagine that image... I was shaken all day. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lizard King Posted July 20, 2017 Share Posted July 20, 2017 3 minutes ago, gEYno said: My commute is about 50 minutes each way including a walk. I don't mind it as I read my Kindle and it's really some of the only quiet/personal time I get these days. As I transition from my day job to self-employment, I'll get more time back, but I will miss my commute for that reason. One day a week I go to the gym directly after work as well as one morning per weekend. Parenting is terrifying. My daughter recently discovered picking her nose, and yesterday morning we came in the room to see her, we found her in a pretty large pool of blood. She was happy as could be, but imagine that image... I was shaken all day. That's a horrible image. You're playing, right? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ZachEY Posted July 20, 2017 Share Posted July 20, 2017 13 minutes ago, Lizard King said: That's a horrible image. You're playing, right? Nope. Just chiming in on the young dads conversation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gone Posted July 20, 2017 Share Posted July 20, 2017 Ok Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gone Posted July 20, 2017 Share Posted July 20, 2017 It's a good thing i thought about it... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Crusher Posted July 20, 2017 Share Posted July 20, 2017 1 hour ago, gEYno said: My commute is about 50 minutes each way including a walk. I don't mind it as I read my Kindle and it's really some of the only quiet/personal time I get these days. As I transition from my day job to self-employment, I'll get more time back, but I will miss my commute for that reason. One day a week I go to the gym directly after work as well as one morning per weekend. Parenting is terrifying. My daughter recently discovered picking her nose, and yesterday morning we came in the room to see her, we found her in a pretty large pool of blood. She was happy as could be, but imagine that image... I was shaken all day. Did she get the booger or not? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ZachEY Posted July 20, 2017 Share Posted July 20, 2017 5 minutes ago, The Crusher said: Did she get the booger or not? She generally figures out how to accomplish most of her goals. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nolder Posted July 20, 2017 Author Share Posted July 20, 2017 5 hours ago, The Crusher said: Beimg a young Dad is tuffest thing any dude can do. Brutal lack of me time, brutal lack of sleep and the realization your penis is no longer the wife's number one priority. I'm on the opposite end. One daughter getting married next year, one daughter becoming a college freshman, one son a college sophomore, one son a college junior and youngest daughter a high school sophomore . Interesting thing is as tough as it is it really go's by so fast. People always told me that and I never believed them. It really does. Do what ever you can to not miss a minute of it. Once they get older you slowly get your me time back and realize " **** me time", because believe it or not you miss the days of them dominating your life. You always know who you are, what you do and what you do it for... You are Daddy, you do everything and you do it for them. No matter how hard it gets enjoy it and never take it for granted, because it's fleeting. Then you go from Daddy to Dad. Daddy changes diapers - Dad makes sure the air in their car tires are full, the inspections are current and oil changes are current. Daddy gives long warm hugs that cure everything - Dads give quick chest bump hugs and hope it helps. Daddy knows all the answer and knows what's best - Dad be guessing like a mother****er and learns as he go's. Daddy teaches them to play sports and practices daily with them - Dad realizes they are getting better than him and Blames that on his two post surgical knees. Daddy puts away and saves for their future and education - Dad makes sure they appreciate it and contribute to themselves as well. No matter be it Daddy or Dad you worry about them, you love them and realize the longer you are a parent the less you know about parenting. The answers and advice become fluid and most of the time it's better to be patient than right. Trust Crushlove on that. ONLY FATHERS WILL GET THIS SHARE IF YOU AGREE!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nolder Posted July 20, 2017 Author Share Posted July 20, 2017 1 hour ago, Nynaeve said: Ok 1 hour ago, Nynaeve said: It's a good thing i thought about it... Is that an in or an out? lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dicetosser Posted July 20, 2017 Share Posted July 20, 2017 @Lizard King @Integrity28 can I ask how old u guys are? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lizard King Posted July 20, 2017 Share Posted July 20, 2017 4 minutes ago, Dicetosser said: @Lizard King @Integrity28 can I ask how old u guys are? 32 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OH NO.....ITS ZANDER!!!!!! Posted July 20, 2017 Share Posted July 20, 2017 8 hours ago, Integrity28 said: Congrats by the way - our 2nd is due in October. Congrats man!!!!! 8 hours ago, Lizard King said: Thanks, you too! I thought about it, and there's no way a Nolder game is going past 40 pages. I should be good. ummmm.....Hi Im Zander..... lololololololol <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 8 hours ago, Verbal said: IN I dare you guys to speedlynch me D1. Vote:Verb lololololololol 6 hours ago, JiF said: 3 hours in traffic each day? Blow my brains out now. **** that. That's literally spending a few days worth of time each year in traffic. Dont get how people do that everyday. So I shouldnt complain about my 25 min commute to work..... 2 hours ago, Nynaeve said: Ok YAY!!!!! <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gone Posted July 21, 2017 Share Posted July 21, 2017 3 hours ago, Nolder said: Is that an in or an out? lol You must be a hit with the ladies. It's a hesitant in... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Integrity28 Posted July 21, 2017 Share Posted July 21, 2017 3 hours ago, Dicetosser said: @Lizard King @Integrity28 can I ask how old u guys are? 17 i have an old soul. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HessStation Posted July 21, 2017 Share Posted July 21, 2017 I blame most of my problems on the federal reserve. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Crusher Posted July 21, 2017 Share Posted July 21, 2017 16 minutes ago, HessStation said: I blame most of my problems on the federal reserve. Glandular is my go to. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nolder Posted July 21, 2017 Author Share Posted July 21, 2017 4 hours ago, Nynaeve said: You must be a hit with the ladies. It's a hesitant in... You know it baby. Great! I think you'll like this one, seriously. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nolder Posted July 21, 2017 Author Share Posted July 21, 2017 2 hours ago, HessStation said: I blame most of my problems on the federal reserve. woke Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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OH NO.....ITS ZANDER!!!!!! Posted July 21, 2017 Share Posted July 21, 2017 5 hours ago, Nynaeve said: You must be a hit with the ladies. It's a hesitant in... http://i.imgur.com/aBB62or.gif 3 hours ago, HessStation said: I blame most of my problems on the Randing Scum FTFM 3 hours ago, The Crusher said: Glandular is my go to. You complete me!!!!!!!!!! lololololollolol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gone Posted July 21, 2017 Share Posted July 21, 2017 2 hours ago, Nolder said: You know it baby. Great! I think you'll like this one, seriously. Im sure you say that to all the girls Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gone Posted July 21, 2017 Share Posted July 21, 2017 2 hours ago, Nolder said: You know it baby. Great! I think you'll like this one, seriously. Im sure you say that to all the girls Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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