joewilly12

Thursday at 03:39 AM

Update appraisal done on home seems it’s worth a lot more then I was offered by the devil woman. So she raised her offer $30k so I countered with I want it for for that amount. If we can’t agree on a price it will surely have to be sold. She is livid I’m told her scum lawyer sends email to my lawyer I strongly suggest your client accepts the offer. My guess she’s starting to sweat the fact the inevitable is happening I don’t care she has nowhere to go and will have to look for a place when she lied to have me removed it wasn’t a concern of hers. I treat people like they treat me.

Monday at 03:50 AM

I’m living in hell ...... its hotter than hell here. My former marital home has brand new central air installed last summer. 7 months she’s been stalling the entire divorce process to stay in the home I need want the home sold so I can get some money to survive.

May 20

51 minutes ago, Waka Flocka Flacco said:

She wants you to act out and file motions and have your lawyers write letters so she can ultimately argue to the Court that you were the one who unnecessarily increased the time and expense of the divorce and that you should therefore bear that cost, the result of which being an allocation of the marital estate that gets her what she wants.

It is not going to be some insane travesty miscarriage of justice or anybody else's fault when this winds up where it's obviously headed.

Im not doing anything but sitting back and allowing her to hate on me showing her vindictive true colors.

The lawyers decide issues she ignores them or does what she wants.

Ive made numerous requests for clothes, shoes,etc all which she has denied even with police civil standby and the agreement we both signed allows it.

Im remaining calm and letting her show her anger and need to control everything.

She made 1 ridiculous marriage settlement proposal totally lopsided am I supposed to except it put my tail between my legs and walk away.

May 20

2 hours ago, Waka Flocka Flacco said:

There's two sides of the coin. She's sticking to her position notwithstanding the likely ultimate outcome, but it doesn't especially sound like she's trying to waste a bunch of everyone's time and money going back and forth about it in the meantime.

She purposely wants me to act out and file motions and have my lawyers write letters so she can portray me as the bad person aggressor instigator she has never proven her false allegations against me.

We agreed to civil restraints and that's all she has something I should have never done.

May 19

5 hours ago, HighPitch said:

Get the word back to her through attorneys that you either want to sell the home now while prices are high and split it 50/50 or she can buy you out. Let it be clear that if there is no agreement, There is no more discussions and you will be going to court. No more mediation.

She should know that a court trial will be super expensive and a lot of that money will be taken by the lawyers. In the end, that house is going to be sold. Does she want 50% NOW while the market is hot or 50% later when the crash comes minus 50-100k thaT SHE WILL owe her lawyer?

She is dumb not to agree now. But if she does not come around, no more contact just go to court.

Feel bad for you. The NY NJ system is such that it will take forever to resolve this and only the lawyers will be winners. Another reason to move down south

She offered me nothing I counter offered with the same offer. She's purposely stalling so she doesn't have to pay me.

We don't even have a court date. She thinks she's entitled to the home. Im not giving in giving up.

She claims things were so bad yet she wants to keep the home where we raised our family it only exposes more of her lies.

I think she might have had some kind of mental breakdown she was always angry vindictive but never nothing like this ever.

She wants everyone to think she is so perfect and never did or said anything wrong.

May 19

6 hours ago, undertow said:

Best revenge is to be silent and disappear off the face of the planet you think you are getting back at her but you are playing right into her hands not only will she have more ammo for court she's probably getting cheap thrills out of it.

No doubt this evil rotten vindictive person is happy I'm struggling.

May 19

She agrees to nothing the lawyers send emails letters back and forth I think situations are resolved and she either ignores them or does what she wants can’t get into details.
Her lawyer probably advised her since day 1 sign the restraining order you control the divorce and the home. She’s acting in a manner I’ve never seen in my life and again I’ve known her since she was 14 something isn’t adding up. She’s also telling a lot of lies the biggest disappointment is manipulating both adult children against me.

If being a NY Jets fan isn’t tough enough its now fighting the battle of my life with someone I loved for many years.

May 19

8 hours ago, HighPitch said:

The point here is there is law. From what you say, the home will be sold and split 50/50.

It doesnt matter what she says. She cant just keep the house

She refuses to cooperate with anything she tells the lawyers she’s not interested in selling the marital home. She has made a ridiculous offer through a marriage settlement proposal I offered the same amount back in my counter offer. She refused it.
The home is paid for the children are adults my understanding is if an agreement cant be reached a judge will rule it be sold that hasn’t happened yet it seems her lawyer is doing everything possible to buy her time in the home. We have an ESP mediation scheduled soon I don’t see it solving much of anything unless it’s her way.
I have been cooperative for the most part with everything and anything so far and she seems to be taking full advantage of that but now it’s time to treat her like she’s treated me.

May 18

11 hours ago, Biggs said:

Not only should you take your lawyers advice, you should stay out of the settlement negotiations and let them negotiate it. Get it over and move on. Life is short and your pain and desire for revenge and a sense of equity is a complete waste of time.

Your marriage is over. It’s your choice on how you want to live and enjoy the rest o your life. A couple of bucks either way is meaningless.

Marriage is over way more than a couple of bucks adding in what she already took which wasn't hers.

Not looking for revenge looking for justice.

May 18

40 minutes ago, HighPitch said:

Joewilly youre being a little ridiculous.

if the kids are grown and the house is paid and little debt, the judge is going to split it 50/50. Why are you worried about what “she wants”?

Will the judge do that? She insists she’s not leaving the marital home and I have no choice in the matter. I don’t even want to attend ESP mediation I dont want to look at this evil woman or be in the same room as her.

May 16

It’s no so easy brothers I was born raised here worked here volunteer here even though she destroyed that too. Right now I’m the primary caretaker for my elderly mom who I’m living with I leave she probably dies we have no other family and my wife kids can careless about her even though she helped raise my children and gave them all a lot.
Taking her ridiculous offers would be quitting I’m not a quitter she is prolonging the inevitable no judge will allow her to remain in the home if we can’t agree on a number easier to order it sold split profits move on.
The week she acted out maybe longer played my wife she in fact snuck to the lawyers office left work early to do it and got her RO advice from him slime ball.. she always said to me you can always trust me ..............

May 16

7 hours ago, chirorob said:

Hire attorney

Listen to them

My first attorney gave me very bad legal advice fighting the TRO she dropped we entered into civil restraints bad move. My current attorney won me the PRO trial. She’s being evil vindictive with everything and ignoring attorney agreements . She knows the system is corrupt and her lawyer is a slime ball who knows it too so they use it to keep her in the home and have her not pay me proper pendente lite money. She refused to list and sell the home. Divorce = home sold no minor children she feels she’s above the laws makes good money and can do what she wants she has been for many months. I’m not agreeing to a buyout I want the home listed and bidding to take place sold to the highest bidder she has no right to retain the home because she thinks she’s entitled to it. She also is very upset about having to pay me pension alimony 401k too damn bad she chose to file restraining orders and file for divorce not me. She didn’t deserve the love I gave her for all those years she’s a rotten angry miserable woman

May 16

4 hours ago, chirorob said:

Hire attorney

Listen to them

My first attorney gave me very bad legal advice fighting the TRO she dropped we entered into civil restraints bad move. My current attorney won me the PRO trial. She’s being evil vindictive with everything and ignoring attorney agreements . She knows the system is corrupt and her lawyer is a slime ball who knows it too so they use it to keep her in the home and have her not pay me proper pendente lite money. She refused to list and sell the home. Divorce = home sold no minor children she feels she’s above the laws makes good money and can do what she wants she has been for many months. I’m not agreeing to a buyout I want the home listed and bidding to take place sold to the highest bidder she has no right to retain the home because she thinks she’s entitled to it. She also is very upset about having to pay me pension alimony 401k too damn bad she chose to file restraining orders and file for divorce not me. She didn’t deserve the love I gave her for all those years she’s a rotten angry miserable woman

May 16

No settling with her unless I want to take her ridiculous proposals none benefit me. Our home is paid for no debt adult children she wants the home for nothing and had mentioned to others it’s her trophy to show everyone she could do it all without me. She’s a person who is all about her image and what others think. I miss her because I loved her and was blindsided by all this we both had our faults but there was no reason to do what she did. She did it to establish control of the home and to make me look like the bad guy her the innocent poor victim. She definitely lied and abused the restraining order process and she knows it.

May 16

Im hurting like nobody knows I miss my wife my children my home.

I can't eat cant sleep cant function.

How does a person hurt someone like this after all the years we were together.

May 14

Nothing I posted got the thread deleted just need to be careful it’s social media.

May 13

Been absent from the forum for awhile missing all of you.

I appreciate the suggestions thoughts and prayers.

Im in for a fight of my life it seems with a woman I loved and I spent my entire life with she's out to destroy me emotionally and financially.

Need to be careful what I post.

Thanks

October 17, 2021

Please no private messages appreciate all of you but they go to a shared access email account and this may cause me some issues.
Thanks

joewilly12

October 16, 2021

***Dudes/Dudettes/Duds***

I appreciate the kind words and the thoughts good or bad.
Im having some health issues on the mend hopefully and some really serious private personal family issues that I need prayers they get fixed.
I made some mistakes and haven’t been the best person I could be towards my wife and son.
Hopefully with the grace of God and the best wife anyone could ever ask for this all gets straightened out soon.
Miss you all just can’t spend the time here like I used to. Need to fix me and my situation I’m in all my fault.