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Dammit.

Essentially, she started putting up barriers starting around month 10 of the relationship. By month 14 she refused basically any physical contact but hugging. This due to the fact that she found out her twin sister didn't even kiss her husband until they got engaged. Being a traditional girl of high morality, this suited her just fine. But of course it didn't suit me, even as a Christian dude.

Not to mention she didn't get any of my random pop culture references, and started alienating some of her closest friends for relatively petty reasons.

Added up to a breakup that was a bit overdue.

So, you went from getting laid, to hugs? Or, from making out and maybe some some over the shirt fondling to hugs? The former is a pretty big jump and probably an indication that there was a lot wrong in that relationship.

Dating people who consider themselves "highly moral" is always a bad idea... And, if you want someone to get your random pop culture references, date a man.

What are you looking for now? To get laid? Or, a relationship?

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So, you went from getting laid, to hugs? Or, from making out and maybe some some over the shirt fondling to hugs? The former is a pretty big jump and probably an indication that there was a lot wrong in that relationship.

Dating people who consider themselves "highly moral" is always a bad idea... And, if you want someone to get your random pop culture references, date a man.

What are you looking for now? To get laid? Or, a relationship?

1. There was no sex going on before, the before/after difference wasn't exactly vast. Her reasoning was exactly what I stated. She saw what worked for her twin sister and thought she should apply it to her own relationship.

2. True words on the "highly moral" comment.

3. The girl I'm with currently gets them. She's 1,000,000 times better than the ex. I'm not saying you need to get everything I randomly bring up, but the ex didn't have really ANYTHING in common when it came to interests, so it stuck out as a negative.

4. Relationship. Which, fortunately, has commenced with the current girl.

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Got a couple minutes. First thing you have to understand is it's not you. Regardless of what anyone says in this thread this is a function of the game not the player. More likely than not you have the ability just not the proper coaching and or you may lack weapons.

The first thing you and Dr Crushlove have to get straight is what we EXACTLY are talking about. Are we talking about struggling with getting woman naked all together or a specific young lady that you fancy? Those are two very different issues. Because the easiest way to get a chick to say yes to sex who has been saying no is to just ASK ANOTHER GIRL. If the young lady you pursue has tossed you solidly into the friendzone then this is the easiest and quickest option.

This is not saying that you have quit on her and will never enjoy her goodies. Not at all honestly. In some cases by doing this successfully the chick sees you with another babe and realizes whatever they realize at that point. They see you in a different light when another woman is treating you like a man rather than a girlfriend with a penis. All of a sudden she may decide that she screwed up and she will start acting different around you. Eventually she will want your ALL your attention back and may choose to use her softy to accomplish this.

Now if this is one of those SHE IS THE ONE issues I may not be the guy to ask. This is a very long process and may take a life time to escape from friend zone to her end zone. The cost could be enormous and quite honestly you could die.

Let me give you an example:

I have a female friend of mine and Mrs Crushlove that I have been having conversation with for about 15 years. The short story is she liked badboys in high school and had a guy she was good friends with but just not her thing back then. She always told me how wonderful he was but she never though of him "That Way."

He confessed is love numerous times. Love or desire to bang but you get the point.

So.. she spent 30 years with a couple different badboy husbands that treated her terribly and one actually physically hurt her and her son. The whole time talking with the guy from high school who also had failed marriages and ended up with a child so alienated from him they haven;t talked in years.

To make a long story short 31 years later they meet up at a party back home.... end up hooking up finally and now they seem very happy. They are getting married. His daughter is actually coming around and for now the story seems happy.

But.. Look at this. It took this dude 30+ years to get in. THIRTY. One could argue it's true love and worth it. Personally I think it's just circumstance lining up.

So 80. Let me know what we are dealing with and I will get a little more specific.

Hooked up a few times with a 23-year-old a few months back who had a boyfriend of 5 years out of state. She felt guilty, told him, he went totally psycho and the relationship is over. Never went all the way but we fooled around. We're on acquaintance terms for now and I see her a few times per week around school. Her ex went almost-suicidal psycho on her many times and she's been through a lot because of it, but they're not together. Any chance I still can still bang her? Or has that ship completely sailed?

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Hooked up a few times with a 23-year-old a few months back who had a boyfriend of 5 years out of state. She felt guilty, told him, he went totally psycho and the relationship is over. Never went all the way but we fooled around. We're on acquaintance terms for now and I see her a few times per week around school. Her ex went almost-suicidal psycho on her many times and she's been through a lot because of it, but they're not together. Any chance I still can still bang her? Or has that ship completely sailed?

Any risk of the out-of-state dude murdering you with an ice pick?

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Dating people who consider themselves "highly moral" is always a bad idea... And, if you want someone to get your random pop culture references, date a man.

It's a tradeoff. If you want to date a hot girl you're most likely sacrificing that part. Kick your standards down to like a 7.5 and you'll be able to find a chick that gets as excited as we do when Uncle Buck is on TV.

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1. There was no sex going on before, the before/after difference wasn't exactly vast. Her reasoning was exactly what I stated. She saw what worked for her twin sister and thought she should apply it to her own relationship.

2. True words on the "highly moral" comment.

3. The girl I'm with currently gets them. She's 1,000,000 times better than the ex. I'm not saying you need to get everything I randomly bring up, but the ex didn't have really ANYTHING in common when it came to interests, so it stuck out as a negative.

4. Relationship. Which, fortunately, has commenced with the current girl.

ok... now i'm concerned...

are you even getting it wet yet?

what do the young people mean when they say relationship nowadays?

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Hooked up a few times with a 23-year-old a few months back who had a boyfriend of 5 years out of state. She felt guilty, told him, he went totally psycho and the relationship is over. Never went all the way but we fooled around. We're on acquaintance terms for now and I see her a few times per week around school. Her ex went almost-suicidal psycho on her many times and she's been through a lot because of it, but they're not together. Any chance I still can still bang her? Or has that ship completely sailed?

First off it would be nice to know why he lost it like that. Did he go nuts because he and her had some sort of emotional connection? If yes. Then why the hell do you want the headache? Truth is he was probably sampling on his end but using this crap to try and guilt her into keeping it closed.

Now! If you got the feeling from the little bit of preview you got that she got one of those mad snapping type pussies. Kinda pussy that feels so good you **** her and even your first cousins have spontaneous orgasms... then yes.

Truth is she would have never played patty cake with you if she gave a crap about that dude. She is just waiting for you. More likely then not wants to see if this sh*t scared you off. Just let her know that when she finally let's you go B.D. on that sh*t you will happily ignore her until she is ready to be dirty nasty again. Tell her it's about her and what she wants.

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So, you went from getting laid, to hugs? Or, from making out and maybe some some over the shirt fondling to hugs? The former is a pretty big jump and probably an indication that there was a lot wrong in that relationship.

Dating people who consider themselves "highly moral" is always a bad idea... And, if you want someone to get your random pop culture references, date a man.

What are you looking for now? To get laid? Or, a relationship?

If it's not fun why do it? If your dating a chick and she starts adding rules to your life then it's time to date another girl. People with screwed up lifes usually date people and feel the need to screw their lifes up. find someone who wants to wake up and attempt to make themselves happy every day. If the chick needs you to make her happy run for the hills. Maybe bang a sheep whileyour their. Heard it's not bad.

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