Boozer76 Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 About a year ago I opened a myspace account so I could look at some pics my younger sister wanted me to see. You have to be a member to view them. Anyway I never updated my profile or posted a pic or anything, and just the other day out of the blue I got an email through myspace from an ex-girlfriend of mine. To give you a little history we dated for about 3 months about 10 years ago. We were friends for about 2 years prior to dating. We also had a 1 night stand well before I started dating my wife. From then on I hadn't seen her at all. She had tried to look me up in the past becasue she ended up calling my grandparents house when she looked up my name. My grandmother told her I was married and that was the end of it (gotta love's grandma's). My myspace account has an extremely small amount of info about myself and I couldn't even find myself when I tried to do a search so I have to believe this girl actively sought me out, although I am not too savvy with the whole myspace thing so I might just be missing something. I politely responded to her email to see how she was doing, etc... and now it has almost become an every day back and forth email thing going on. It seems harmless enough but I can kind of sense little hints coming from her saying she's lonely, has no significant other, would do things differently back in the old days if she could (not specifically referencing our relationship). I could be taking things the wrong way, but that little voice in my head is telling me that I'm not. Anyway I am married, would never and have never cheated on my wife. Well, except the time Max took advantage of me but I was drunk and sleeping and Max promised me that what I can't really remember never really happeneed, nevermind the vaseline in my ass cheeks. This girl lives in FL, so there really isn't a chance of us getting togewther anyway. Should I end the emails or is this all harmless? I yhaven't told my wife because I don't know how she'd react to an ex emailing me. Thoughts?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Big Al NYC Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 A) End it now and don't tell your wife. Get rid of all the evidence. Corrupt your harddrive if you have to. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Garb Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 ....no offense, I suppose everyone needs an ego boost now and then.....but all this back and forth is just ego stroking on your part - and possibly harmful. Really. Why give this girl any hope of reuniting? Why have something out there that could hurt your wifes feelings? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thor99 Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 Is she hot? That's really all that matters. I love Florida. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Preston Howley III Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 An arrow released will not return. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bob Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 A) End it now and don't tell your wife. Get rid of all the evidence. Corrupt your harddrive if you have to. That's wisdom, right there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boozer76 Posted March 2, 2006 Author Share Posted March 2, 2006 ....no offense, I suppose everyone needs an ego boost now and then.....but all this back and forth is just ego stroking on your part - and possibly harmful. Really. Why give this girl any hope of reuniting? Why have something out there that could hurt your wifes feelings? I wouldn't call it an ego boost Garb. This only happened 2 days ago so I don't want to lead on that it has been a long time. It's basically been "Hey Mike, how's life been?" To which I responded "Great, how about you?" I clearly explained that I was happily married and will be trying to have kids this year. The only thing she said at all that makes me leary is the whole going back and changing things comment. Like I said she didn't directly say it in terms of us at all, just in general. It was the only comment that made me think that she was possibly looking for more. The ONLY reason I haven't told my wife is due to a funny and strange series of events that happened over the last 2 weeks. She called my office one time and somebody told her I wasn't there, when in fact I was. A week later she found the back of an earring in my car, which turned out to be my grandmothers. We have jokingly made comments that I was having an affair, though of course she knows I am not and of course I NEVER would. I just thinkl that this might change her attitude from joking to seriously concerned which would totally be unwarranted and untrue. The timing is the only reason at all, otherwise she would have seen the very first email and probably would have no problem with it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JetFanByMarriage Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 I wouldn't call it an ego boost Garb. This only happened 2 days ago so I don't want to lead on that it has been a long time. It's basically been "Hey Mike, how's life been?" To which I responded "Great, how about you?" I clearly explained that I was happily married and will be trying to have kids this year. The only thing she said at all that makes me leary is the whole going back and changing things comment. Like I said she didn't directly say it in terms of us at all, just in general. It was the only comment that made me think that she was possibly looking for more. The ONLY reason I haven't told my wife is due to a funny and strange series of events that happened over the last 2 weeks. She called my office one time and somebody told her I wasn't there, when in fact I was. A week later she found the back of an earring in my car, which turned out to be my grandmothers. We have jokingly made comments that I was having an affair, though of course she knows I am not and of course I NEVER would. I just thinkl that this might change her attitude from joking to seriously concerned which would totally be unwarranted and untrue. The timing is the only reason at all, otherwise she would have seen the very first email and probably would have no problem with it. A woman's perspective. I definitely would want to be told. I would want the option to read the email exchanges to put my mind at ease. Honesty is a huge part of marriage. Since this all just started a couple of days ago you have not been hiding anything. Be up front with her and expect her to ask questions, it is only natural. I would not continue the exchanges unless your wife is comfortable with it. It might be innocent but if you hide it from your wife it could make things seem alot worse then they are! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Smizzy Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 Im sure the conversations started off innocent enough but somewhere they took that turn. If you know it happened ,so does she. It would be smart to stop that talks now. ASAP. Your wife would be hurt if she knew that you realized she was hitting on you and you continued to talk to her anyway. Thats very undermining and you would then be at fault. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JetFanByMarriage Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 Im sure the conversations started off innocent enough but somewhere they took that turn. If you know it happened ,so does she. It would be smart to stop that talks now. ASAP. Your wife would be hurt if she knew that you realized she was hitting on you and you continued to talk to her anyway. Thats very undermining and you would then be at fault. =D> Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Smizzy Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 A woman's perspective. I definitely would want to be told. I would want the option to read the email exchanges to put my mind at ease. Honesty is a huge part of marriage. Since this all just started a couple of days ago you have not been hiding anything. Be up front with her and expect her to ask questions, it is only natural. I would not continue the exchanges unless your wife is comfortable with it. It might be innocent but if you hide it from your wife it could make things seem alot worse then they are! L, Maxman has been Pming my wife photos of what he claims is his "penis" .All I see is a tiny mushroom in a red moss patch but I digress. Anyway....I thought you should be told. He is also having Cyber relations with Stormshadow19. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Smizzy Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 =D> Greengal can kiss my ass. Im Dr.Phil Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JetFanByMarriage Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 Greengal can kiss my ass. Im Dr.Phil I am proud of you smizzy that was a very responsible response!!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Smizzy Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 I am proud of you smizzy that was a very responsible response!!!!! Word on the street is this whole "Smizzy" thing is just an internet persona and Im actually a real live human being! but I ain't one to gossip so you ain't heard that from me. Ya dig? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maxman Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 Boozer, Walk away. Put down the email. Nothing good can come of it. You will just have to trust me on this one. But I feel very strongly that you should: 1. Never email her again. 2. If you decide to tell your wife, tell her after the fact. Like hey, I got a few emails from so and so last week. I responded at first but then I blew her off. Good luck with the baby thing btw. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bob Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 Translation: I definitely would want to be told. I would want the option to read the email exchanges to put my mind at ease. So I could hold it over your head forever. I would not continue the exchanges unless your wife is comfortable with it. Because, as you know, your wife now owns you - testicles, mind and all. Any independent thought you might once have possessed is gone. Deal with it. It might be innocent but if you hide it from your wife it could make things seem alot worse then they are! In any event, I'll assume the worst and make your life a living Hell, bringing this up during every disagreement as long as we both shall live. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JetFanByMarriage Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 Translation: So I could hold it over your head forever. Because, as you know, your wife now owns you - testicles, mind and all. Any independent thought you might once have possessed is gone. Deal with it. In any event, I'll assume the worst and make your life a living Hell, bringing this up during every disagreement as long as we both shall live. Maybe that is how your marriage works but not mine! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boozer76 Posted March 2, 2006 Author Share Posted March 2, 2006 So you're all saying end it or tell my wife. Fair enough. I gues my planned business trip to FL is out of the question, right? I'M JUST KIDDING!!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bob Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 Maybe that is how your marriage works but not mine! Nah. My wife is great. I spent six years looking for a woman who did not remind me of my first wife in any way and another three years checking her out to make sure, before marrying her. She's a good one. I'm just saying that no good can come of maintaining ties to an old flame, or of letting your wife's imagination run away with her. Just walk away and never speak of it, ever. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SouthernJet Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 does she have a ton of money? can she suck the chrome off a bumper? does she have a ton of money? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Preston Howley III Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 Only one thing left to do really. You're going to have to kill her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maxman Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 Only one thing left to do really. You're going to have to kill her. Not sure what scares me more: 1. Your last post 2. Your avatar Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bob Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 I was never a big judas Priest fan, Moses, but the av is cool. That's an impressive adaptation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DHJF Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 I was never a big judas Priest fan, Moses, but the av is cool. That's an impressive adaptation. JM made it in the wee hours of the morning 'cause he's always Living After Midnight. And you better take back what you said about Priest, Bob, or Some Heads Are Gonna Roll; JM has a serious Jawbreaker move. He'll leave ya Screaming For Vengeance. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Preston Howley III Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 I was never a big judas Priest fan, Moses, but the av is cool. That's an impressive adaptation. The idea was mine, the adaptation was done by Panzer Division Marduk. Priest is pretty tame compared to the death metal he listens to. Wow, I think I just hijacked my first thread. What do I win? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maxman Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 The idea was mine, the adaptation was done by Panzer Division Marduk. Priest is pretty tame compared to the death metal he listens to. Wow, I think I just hijacked my first thread. What do I win? We can't tell you. It is a surprise. Happy Jack will be at your door any minute to hand deliver it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gg Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 Greengal can kiss my ass. Im Dr.Phil Dr Phil??/ if you are talking about lack of hair, pudgy and full of himself...then yeah...you resemble Dr. Phil! and...i actually think Bob was the one who started the hijacking.... and lastly... i think our dear weblord misses happy jack!!!! (as we all do ) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bitonti Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 listen to maxie, bob, moses and al you have to stop right now. Nothing good can come of this. You already notched your belt so what's the point? the answer is there is no point and you are taking a risk for what? a wise man once told me you don't pay prostitutes for sex you pay them to go away afterwards. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Preston Howley III Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 JM made it in the wee hours of the morning 'cause he's always Living After Midnight. And you better take back what you said about Priest, Bob, or Some Heads Are Gonna Roll; JM has a serious Jawbreaker move. He'll leave ya Screaming For Vengeance. I liked your Kiss Destroyer AVATAR. What the heck is that you got going on, now? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Preston Howley III Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 listen to maxie, bob, moses and al you have to stop right now. Nothing good can come of this. You already notched your belt so what's the point? the answer is there is no point and you are taking a risk for what? a wise man once told me you don't pay prostitutes for sex you pay them to go away afterwards. Action doesn't take place in a vacuum. There will be consequences. SCORCHED EARTH POLICY- IMPLEMENT PRONTO! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DHJF Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 I liked your Kiss Destroyer AVATAR. What the heck is that you got going on, now? That's my worm. Well, not my worm. It's what I plan to use to win the '06 BASSMaster championship with this year. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boozer76 Posted March 2, 2006 Author Share Posted March 2, 2006 Well I just got another eamil and i guess it confirms what I thought. This chick has been hunting me down and I think it is best to end it. Here's some excerpts from her latest: But anyway...to answer your question, yes, of course I've been dating since I've been down here in Florida. No one serious in awhile though, there was someone a few years ago that was looking promising but it didn't work out. I think that was right about the time I emailed you the last time, but it was like 2 weeks before you were getting married and you had broken your foot or your arm or something. I have to say I was a bit sad. That's so silly though, right? Are you happy with married life? Yeah, I'd definately say she's probing for info..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Preston Howley III Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 Well I just got another eamil and i guess it confirms what I thought. This chick has been hunting me down and I think it is best to end it. Here's some excerpts from her latest: Yeah, I'd definately say she's probing for info..... Chop her up and use her for crab chum. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DHJF Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 Well I just got another eamil and i guess it confirms what I thought. This chick has been hunting me down and I think it is best to end it. Here's some excerpts from her latest: Yeah, I'd definately say she's probing for info..... Dude, do yourself a favor and end it with this stalker now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bob Posted March 2, 2006 Share Posted March 2, 2006 Well I just got another eamil and i guess it confirms what I thought. This chick has been hunting me down and I think it is best to end it. Here's some excerpts from her latest: Yeah, I'd definately say she's probing for info..... RUN! Close that email account. Take down the MySpace page. Get an unlisted phone number (a bunch of us can call you for the next week or so, pretending to be telemarketers, so your wife won't be suspicious when you say, "Honey, what do you think about an unlisted number? It would stop all these calls.") and DON'T LOOK BACK. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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