Jets Voice of Reason Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 She's a designer also. Not sure why you keep telling me it's not my day. I know, I don't need to be told that dude. Appreciate the input, but I'm not Ape in real life. It's all about her, not me. I don't make rude jokes in real life too good luck with the wedding planning, i'm thankful that Dan is actually super organized in real life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jetscode1 Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 Maybe not in the purest form. But its the way most people act when they have them. The old "I dont want my kids to suffer like I did" mentality. People forget its the trials and tribulations of childhood and young adulthood that make you the successful person you are. Yes it is. Both of his brothers make almost double what we do, and yet they are struggling to make ends meet. We make below the president's poverty line, and yet, hello, we are fine on money. Both are observations that tell only part of the story...in my experience and from watching the marriages from friends and family the money issued relate more from a lack of communication and failure to set common goals...many couples want to have it all with each individual unwilling to concede for the betterment of the family (kids included). I have also seen couples work together after they have kids to develop a budget and investment program that serves their long term needs...and Christine, before you suggest you need money to make money, I too enlisted at the age of 18...so I understand the low income the military pays in the early years. The key is working together to live below your means. I have seen low income couples and high income couples fail and succeed. It's really not that hard but it does demand a certain honesty and sacrifice from both partners to make it work. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HessStation Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 All seems like sound advice. You should write a relationship/bacon blog He should have his own show on te food network. Relationship advice to men while eating across the county and how the two somehow relate. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Integrity28 Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 A real dude would have given a one word answer. A moron would have given a one word answer. Someone happy to talk to his interwebz friends, talks. GFY. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jetscode1 Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 The most important part of a marriage is picking the right person. Second most is never forget why you picked them in the first place. Third is realizing how flawed you are and never blame the other person for your inability to be happy. BLAME will kill a marriage faster than Crusher a garbage can of wings. Blame and score keeping. Two biggest relationship killers. Agree on picking the right person and FTR I got extremely lucky to find her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SMC Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 It's all about living either above or below your means. Barring job loss or catestrophic health bills, a family that is struggling is due to living above their means. Living is expensive and having kids are expensive (we have 2), but we're not living paycheck to paycheck for the major reason that we bought a house below the max level we can afford as well as a car below the max level we could afford. Of course, if either of us loses our job or one of us gets seriously ill, we'll be in a world of hurt, but otherwise we live comfortably and not at a high income for NYC. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HessStation Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 A moron would have given a one word answer. Someone happy to talk to his interwebz friends, talks. GFY. Fine *see what did there? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jetscode1 Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 It's all about living either above or below your means. Barring job loss or catestrophic health bills, a family that is struggling is due to living above their means. Living is expensive and having kids are expensive (we have 2), but we're not living paycheck to paycheck for the major reason that we bought a house below the max level we can afford as well as a car below the max level we could afford. Of course, if either of us loses our job or one of us gets seriously ill, we'll be in a world of hurt, but otherwise we live comfortably and not at a high income for NYC. Agreed. Disability insurance. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Integrity28 Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 Blame and score keeping. Two biggest relationship killers. Agree on picking the right person and FTR I got extremely lucky to find her. This. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Integrity28 Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 Fine *see what did there? Facepunch. *see what I did there? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Christine Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 idk I may have misread Thought Christine said she had a kid Ahahaha. Hahahaha. Hahahaha. I spend most of my weekends pretty much wasted. And when my husband is deployed, I get to travel or go visit awesome friends. No kids. Just a cat. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HessStation Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 Both are observations that tell only part of the story...in my experience and from watching the marriages from friends and family the money issued relate more from a lack of communication and failure to set common goals...many couples want to have it all with each individual unwilling to concede for the betterment of the family (kids included). I have also seen couples work together after they have kids to develop a budget and investment program that serves their long term needs...and Christine, before you suggest you need money to make money, I too enlisted at the age of 18...so I understand the low income the military pays in the early years. The key is working together to live below your means. I have seen low income couples and high income couples fail and succeed. It's really not that hard but it does demand a certain honesty and sacrifice from both partners to make it work. Qft Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Christine Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 Both are observations that tell only part of the story...in my experience and from watching the marriages from friends and family the money issued relate more from a lack of communication and failure to set common goals...many couples want to have it all with each individual unwilling to concede for the betterment of the family (kids included). I have also seen couples work together after they have kids to develop a budget and investment program that serves their long term needs...and Christine, before you suggest you need money to make money, I too enlisted at the age of 18...so I understand the low income the military pays in the early years. The key is working together to live below your means. I have seen low income couples and high income couples fail and succeed. It's really not that hard but it does demand a certain honesty and sacrifice from both partners to make it work. LOL, I know, and I see this first hand in a military town. Couples blow through their money each month, and we just look at them, wondering how the hell they wasted it all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Christine Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 Jesus Christ, stop distracting me! I'm trying to get sh*t done over here! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HessStation Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 Facepunch. *see what I did there? Don't beat yourself up about it. I'm truly happy for you ya big vagina. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DPR Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 I remember when I was planning my wedding. Wait - no I don't...oh God, it's trying to get into my brain. Stop it! STOP IT!!! NOOO!!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HessStation Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 I remember when I was planning my wedding. Wait - no I don't...oh God, it's trying to get into my brain. Stop it! STOP IT!!! NOOO!!!!! I rememeber too. It went like, oh yes, sounds great, awesome idea, whatever you think, I agree, me too honey. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JustInFudge Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 **** bitches, get money Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pac Posted August 1, 2012 Author Share Posted August 1, 2012 hard to get ahead these days even when you live within your means. I'm waiting for the LF to hit tenure with her teaching gig. That's when the real doe starts coming in.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HessStation Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 **** bitches, get money Qft Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pac Posted August 1, 2012 Author Share Posted August 1, 2012 all actions in.. day will start after I take a couple office laps and see what peeps is up to. probably going to go get a coke too. peace. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JustInFudge Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 all actions in.. day will start after I take a couple office laps and see what peeps is up to. probably going to go get a coke too. peace. Vote Pac Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Crusher Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 I think 3 should be 1 but well said. Your probably right but you never met my first wife. I be little bit biased. LOL Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Christine Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 hard to get ahead these days even when you live within your means. I'm waiting for the LF to hit tenure with her teaching gig. That's when the real doe starts coming in.. *dough Like... bread dough. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Crusher Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 Both are observations that tell only part of the story...in my experience and from watching the marriages from friends and family the money issued relate more from a lack of communication and failure to set common goals...many couples want to have it all with each individual unwilling to concede for the betterment of the family (kids included). I have also seen couples work together after they have kids to develop a budget and investment program that serves their long term needs...and Christine, before you suggest you need money to make money, I too enlisted at the age of 18...so I understand the low income the military pays in the early years. The key is working together to live below your means. I have seen low income couples and high income couples fail and succeed. It's really not that hard but it does demand a certain honesty and sacrifice from both partners to make it work. That's 100% correct. My point about having kids is to succeed you have to accept the fact that kids are a very expensive lifestyle. Our selfish tendencies have to be put on the back burner and you have to learn Crusher rule of life # 1. FOCUS ON WHAT YOU HAVE AND WHAT YOU HAVE ACCOMPLISHED as oppose to what you think you have earned and deserve. Too many people are too worried about having a fancy house and a fancy car and work their life away and never take the day off the take your kid swimming or fishing. My divorce and everything I have been through has showed me the value of looking at my kids smiles and judging myself and my lifes work accordingly. Baby Crushers football coach paid me the biggest accomplishment I have gotten as a parent.. He told me that a month ago when Baby Crusher broke the all time Squat record at the school he immediately ran thru all the people congratulating him and grabbed his phone out of his book bag and started texting. Coach walked up to him and assumed it was a girl or a friend he was texting. When the coach told him that could wait and he should stay in the moment their and be with the team, Baby Crusher told him, "I gotta text my Dad quick because we have been working on this and he needs to know." Coach told me that he would have never guessed a high school kid would have ran and text his Dad first. That made up for a lot of the so called short comings I have judge myself in my life of. Just thought I would share. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Crusher Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 **** bitches, get money Crusher rule of mating 1.. pick the right chick. You might have to bang 2000 to find the right one. No one is too say. Your better off banging chicks until you shrivel up and die instead of picking the wrong one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Crusher Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 Blame and score keeping. Two biggest relationship killers. Agree on picking the right person and FTR I got extremely lucky to find her. 100% correct. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dan. Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 hard to get ahead these days even when you live within your means. I'm waiting for the LF to hit tenure with her teaching gig. That's when the real doe starts coming in.. Lol that's what summer school is for this year! Doubles my paycheck for a month while I teach just seven kids every morning. Plus, I'll have some of them this upcoming year, so it's a nice opportunity to get to know them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JustInFudge Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 Just checked my bankroll...tight! Just set up a booty caller later tonight...holler! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pac Posted August 1, 2012 Author Share Posted August 1, 2012 *dough Like... bread dough. doh! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bleedin Green Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 It's all about living either above or below your means. Barring job loss or catestrophic health bills, a family that is struggling is due to living above their means. Living is expensive and having kids are expensive (we have 2), but we're not living paycheck to paycheck for the major reason that we bought a house below the max level we can afford as well as a car below the max level we could afford. Of course, if either of us loses our job or one of us gets seriously ill, we'll be in a world of hurt, but otherwise we live comfortably and not at a high income for NYC. And there it is right there. That's the bottom line regardless of the size of your family (or whether you even have one at all). Now granted it's all that much easier to live beyond your means the larger your family is, but I've seen single people who are getting paid very well with crazy amounts of debt, while a full family who is making less combined income lives with no debt outside of a mortgage. There's just some people out there who will always spend everything they get, regardless of how much that is or how unnecessary it may be, and that's the biggest problem. Now granted, there are always exceptions to that rule, as you said, but more often than that, people's debt is a direct result of their own decision-making. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pac Posted August 1, 2012 Author Share Posted August 1, 2012 jokes aside give me like 30 min.. have to finish up some stuff. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dan. Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 That's 100% correct. My point about having kids is to succeed you have to accept the fact that kids are a very expensive lifestyle. Our selfish tendencies have to be put on the back burner and you have to learn Crusher rule of life # 1. FOCUS ON WHAT YOU HAVE AND WHAT YOU HAVE ACCOMPLISHED as oppose to what you think you have earned and deserve. Too many people are too worried about having a fancy house and a fancy car and work their life away and never take the day off the take your kid swimming or fishing. My divorce and everything I have been through has showed me the value of looking at my kids smiles and judging myself and my lifes work accordingly. Baby Crushers football coach paid me the biggest accomplishment I have gotten as a parent.. He told me that a month ago when Baby Crusher broke the all time Squat record at the school he immediately ran thru all the people congratulating him and grabbed his phone out of his book and started testing. Coach walked up to him and assumed it was a girl or a friend he was texting. When the coach told him that could wait and he should stay in the moment their and be with the team, Baby Crusher told him, "I gotta text my Dad quick because we have been working on this and he needs to know." Coach told me that he would have never guessed a high school kid would have ran and text his Dad first. That made up for a lot of the so called short comings I have judge myself in my life of. Just thought I would share. That is awesome. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Crusher Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 Just checked my bankroll...tight! Just set up a booty caller later tonight...holler! Somewhere a little piggy is hollering with glee. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lily Posted August 1, 2012 Share Posted August 1, 2012 First of all, hi Nae! Secondly, good advice, Crush, even for us girls. I'm at the beginning stages of a relationship and can use that kind of advice. "Is he the right one?" was foremost in my thoughts up to now, so I guess I'm not doing too badly. Yet. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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