Reportedly visiting the Cowobys, and I honestly feel bad for the guy. He's good enough to be in the NFL, but the media is determined to cover every single thing he does. So even if an NFL team likes him, they won't give him a shot because of the distractions. Not trying to make a joke here, but he'd be ideal in San Fran. Their defense has been depleted, and he would get support there like nowhere else.
You say he is good enough, but all the professional analysts say he isn't. He isn't fast enough to be a linebacker, he doesn't play special teams, he isn't a three down player, and on and on. He had some good pass rush in preseason, but that wasn't considered enough to cover the gaps he isn't capable of filling. So in closing, who cares if he likes guys or women. the point that he gets so much media attention is just as good for him, as it is bad (as you are pointing out).